To Receive the Majestic
Coming at peace and comfort with the Phallic aspect of reality & men.
“Women who experience sexual anxieties have never experienced the breakthrough, the penetration, of the masculine. Such woman remains, as it were, like the girl in the fairytale, living in the emotional impoverishment of the father’s house. The fears of the phallic beast prevent her from experiencing love and its transforming effects, not only on themselves, but on their partners. Their inner animus remains in an undeveloped stage, forever a frog, never recognized as a prince he could become.
The positive stranger animus enables a woman to focus on and to discern the attributes of her feminine nature. He guides her into conscious realization of her femininity. She then has ability to make choices that do not compromise it. Just as the sacred prostitute went into the world after ritual was completed, prepared to enter marriage as a person fully aware of her capacity, so the modern woman who has integrated animus is ready for life.
Whatever she undertakes, she does so with confidence, without regression, submissiveness or of a feeling of inferiority to a patriarchal system (which would mean returning to the father’s house). She neither has to compete with men nor adopt masculine qualities, that is, identify with the animus. The woman who has come to know the presence of the masculine within is her own authority and stands constant to her feminine nature. She may not be able to change the patriarchal system which surrounds her, but more importantly, she doesn’t allow the system to change her.”
— “The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine”, Nancy Qualls-Corbett
Recently, on social media, there was a reel (or a screenshot of it) in which a woman was expressing her dissatisfaction at the fact that men who she romanced often “did not understand her”, to which many women responded how they do not want to “be understood”, but rather remain a puzzle or unknown. It is one of the qualities of the Feminine to hide and to avoid being known or seen, however, refusing or not allowing to be known, seen or understood by a man, especially the one who expresses a desire or will to do so, is in a way, an active rejection of a man’s love and him as a man.
This is because a man usually expresses his love towards you through his desire to know you, see you and understand you. Only so can he be “one step ahead of you” and intuit your needs, desires or dreams and only so can he surprise you with a gift — be it of a material, emotional or spiritual nature. The “surprise” effect of it is exactly what a woman often consciously or subconsciously seeks because it is the “surprise” that takes the woman into a mode of blissful, orgasmic passivity. How often women express frustration about the fact that they have to “explain” themselves to a man. This is because the very act of “explaining” takes away from you the chance to experience that sudden bliss. It also subtly tells you that he cannot see you or feel you on even the most superficial, basic level. In short, it communicates to you that he is shallow and since he is shallow and can only interact with the surface, you as a woman will also have to remain shallow and on the surface, as any depth or complexity will terrify him.
A man who wishes to know you, will often ask questions, but you will not have to explain or interpret yourself to him — he will know how to do that himself, because he can “see” what you mean and what it relates to on a level that goes beyond words. His questions will be about the parts of you that he wishes “to open.” He will allow you talk and allow you “dance”, while he will be attentive to it and so be able to find the essence of your words or the dance. It is for this reason that women seek their “signature perfume” or wishing to be a muse for a perfume or an artist — it is to be “caught” in your essence, and your essential nature “articulated” to you through a symbol, perfume, poem, or work of art.
However, in spite of wanting and desiring this, women also often fear the phallic quality of a man’s energy. It is phallic because it is by nature penetrative — it seeks to go inside, to know, to seize, to capture. A woman who is maidenly and suffers from sexual anxieties — and those anxieties can manifest both as promiscuity and as frozen libido and fear of sex and sexuality, suffers from them because her container is very small and unreceptive. She cannot receive the Phallus and allow him to align her with the Truth of her own soul — she rejects him and so rejects a part of herself.
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