How To Interact With Men
Attitudes and mindsets to adopt to minimise the chance of feeling victimised.
One of the most common type of questions that I get from my female subscribers and friends are those that ask about how to approach interactions with men. Our current culture has removed much of formulaic and prescribed rituals that allowed men and women to interact with a degree of clarity and with a clear meaning of what each gesture means. Now, we in a way, have to “figure out” every individual’s personal language and internal system of symbols and meanings. This is not to make a judgement whether one or the other is good or bad, but it is simply the reality we all must work with. Because of this, it can be particularly difficult to understand what any gesture or word means to the person as there is no general, cultural heuristic to help us recognise it and categorise it. The “master” right now, in a way, is someone who knows how to see, feel and read another person's internal language and symbols.
Women who reach out to me often demonstrate certain patterns in how they feel when they communicate or interact with men. Usually they feel confused and unclear about the man’s intent or they feel uncomfortable becoming too whimsical, obsessive and clingy about a man. Other times they are filled with anxiety and worry about how they “come off”, subtly seeking to control or create an image that they hope will “catch the man”. The anxiety creates the pattern of lying and inauthenticity that makes relationships feel like labour and work.
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