In women’s conversation, one topic that we may often encounter and hear of is the topic of “losing one’s spark”. It occurs after a draining relationship, after childbirth or simply a pattern of devoting one self to external pursuits and feeling drained by them. When we “lose our spark”, we feel flattened, dull, separate from the current of life and that which makes us feel excited not only to be alive but to be this particular person and have this particular experience.
Getting it back often seems more difficult than it initially appears — we may attempt to do the things that once brought us joy, yet now, it does nothing for us. Sometimes it deepens our despair because that which previously could serve as a vessel to ourselves no longer serves that purpose. The old channels and rituals do not work. What our being demands is renewal, not regression.